I had a conversation with my client today about relationship issue she had with her husband. As conversation progressed, I could see clearly that she was having a hard time with herself. She is trying to do or fix everything with her husband so that her husband would be happy and satisfy with her. She is trying to figure out what she did wrong that cause such an estrange relationship with her husband. She is letting her husband’s behavior effected her; she is giving her husband more power in her life than she is to hers.
This happen to many of us, including me, we are trying to make everybody happy, and in process, we forgot to make us happy. It is easy to take care of other people, concern about other’s well-being than our own. Majority of the uneasiness or frustration that we have are due to our thoughts, and our attention to what other people think of us. If we are experiencing these feelings, it is time to take a step back and look at the situation as a spectator instead of participant.
If we question our thoughts or behavior about us and taking care of our needs first; then, what our love one, parents, or other people think of us will not bother to us. What questions or thoughts you have not ask of you that if you ask it will change the way you think about them and give you more ease with your life?